Check out this latest show from the folks at Life Report. It’s a very helpful discussion of how we can integrate our concern for the unborn with our genuine concern for the pro-choice advocate we want to reach. Life Report is regular food for thought on my mental table. I highly recommended you make it the same for you.
Part 1 (~15 min):
Part 2 (~15 min):
Kyle made a comment in this episode that might be misunderstood by some. He said “I want to leave them with a thought from me and not from them” (4:50, part 2). He went on to clarify that he sees the dynamic as “Where I’ve balanced it and just tilted it my direction.” (5:05)
I think Kyle is not saying (Kyle, feel free to clarify in the comments section) that there is never a value in letting the person you’re talking with have the last word, or that there is never value in listening to a person’s perspective without challenging that person. I believe it is good for us to be open to sometimes just listening. It depends on the person and the conversation, of course. I agree with Kyle’s point here as a general rule, that I want to leave a person with a question that truly gets him or her thinking. But I also sometimes will say, “We’ve had a long discussion here. I’d like you to tell me what question you’d like me to be thinking about.” I’m genuinely interested in hearing and pondering. That’s because this isn’t just about changing a mind. It’s about partnering with the person to find truth together. That means that I have things to learn too.
It’s almost like reverse psychology. I have the best chance at changing a mind if I don’t make it my primary agenda. I make seeking-truth-in-the-context-of-relationship my primary agenda and let the truth stand on its own two feet. And I leave the results to God.
I want to say, “Good work!” to my friends at Life Report. It was really encouraging to watch this show this past week. I find that one of the most helpful things about your show is seeing all of you in the process of working out how to really create dialogue on abortion. It provides me a sense of community (other people on the same path) that encourages me to keep challenging myself to grow as an ambassador.